The Five High Impacts in Your Life

I’ve had several people ask me recently, “Who are the 5 people that you spend the most time with?”  And since that question kept coming up, I did  a little research and found that this is a theme in Jack Canfield’s books.  I also found that Jim Rohn, a self made millionaire and successful author is quoted as saying, “You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with.”

So, I got to thinking about this idea and noticed something I had not focused in on before … I don’t have 5 key people that I hang out with.

What I have are circles of fives.

  • There are the people that I talk with the most about my goals and my plans; my successes and my struggles
  • There are the friends that we made while our son was involved in sports from elementary school through high school
  • There are key family members
  • There is my assistant and key people in our local organization (but way more than 5!)
  • There are my friends who have been friends for more than 30 years
  • And there are different groups of friends based on the different activities that I have enjoyed over the years

This exercise helped me to realize that I am the sum of who I am based on the journey I’ve been on and each person along the way contributes to the richness and the tapestry that is my life.

I have a lot of people in my life that make me smile and give my heart a warm glow when I think of them.  And I realize how truly blessed I am!

I also realize that every day, I make choices.  Most times, I choose based on my own thinking patterns and my goals.  I look at where I am now and where I want to be and will this thing or that thing move me closer … or move me further away from where I want to go.

And sometimes, when I’m not sure of what the next step is, I think of someone I admire from my many “groups of fives” and I think to myself, “what would this person do?”  Or I recall a discussion and draw on their wisdom that has now become my wisdom too.  And, when I’m really stuck and need a gentle push or a prod, I know I have a mental rolodex of people that I can call to ask for their input.  And, that, my friend … is a very beautiful thing!

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